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    Insights Into A Teenager's Mind - For Parents To Know

    By Nandini Raman
    27 May'23  6 min read
    Insights Into A Teenager's Mind - For Parents To Know
    Synopsis

    Being a teenager is by far, one of the most challenging phases of life. Adolescents experience a significant change in their physical, emotional, psychological and social development, which can be very overwhelming and challenging for them. When parents try to be “friends” who understand their teenager, they must truly understand what is going on inside the mind of their child.

    Insights Into A Teenager's Mind - For Parents To Know
    Synopsis

    Being a teenager is by far, one of the most challenging phases of life. Adolescents experience a significant change in their physical, emotional, psychological and social development, which can be very overwhelming and challenging for them. When parents try to be “friends” who understand their teenager, they must truly understand what is going on inside the mind of their child.

    Being a teenager can be and is a complicated process. The young individual struggles to navigate the delicate balance of growing up, becoming independent, experimenting, and being stuck at times to receive guidance, care and understanding from his parents, guardians and/or caregivers. Hence, it is crucial for parents to understand the inner workings of a teenager's mind as the children transition from being a child to becoming a fine young adult.

    Parents and adults who work with young teenagers need to learn to support them effectively, not the way we want to but the way they need us to.

    A teenager's mind is a rather complex and ever evolving landscape shaped by various factors. Here are some key insights that I thought might help you understand your teenager a little better.

    Emotional Rollercoaster

    Hormonal changes during adolescence can lead to heightened emotions and crazy mood swings. Teenagers experience a wide range of emotions including anger, confusion, sadness, happiness, jealousy, joy etc. Most of these are reactions to their immediate environment and shortcomings with friends, events that happen at school.

    These emotions are intense and can become overwhelming as they may not have the skills to cope with them effectively. And so, it helps if parents are empathetic and offer support during these difficult, transitional times. It is also essential for parents to recognise that mood swings are a normal part of this phase of life and not always a cause for medical concern. However, look out for behaviours and patterns that are aggressive, involve self-harm and unhealthy coping mechanisms. This can become a reason of concern and they may need assessment and timely professional intervention.

    Developmental Challenges

    Adolescence is a period of rapid physical, cognitive, and social development. Teenagers may struggle with body image, self-esteem, identity confusion, and forming healthy relationships as they navigate these changes.

    Remember that each teenager is unique, and these insights are generalisations. It's essential to maintain open communication (without judgement), empathy, and support to better understand and connect with your teen on an individual level. Be a part of their life and chat with them every day on what is happening in their lives – academically, with friends, their social life and talk to them about their challenges without being quick to offer solutions or rescue operations.

    Desire for Independence

    Teenagers strive for increased independence and autonomy. They may resist authority figures and seek opportunities for self-expression and decision-making, which can sometimes lead to conflicts with parents or other authority figures. Let them learn from their mistakes and do not be quick to bail them out. These mistakes help them make better decisions and grow up, so let them make a few mistakes and take responsibility for the consequences that follow their actions.

    Risk-Taking Behaviour

    Teenagers are prone to engage in risk-taking behaviour due to their developing brain and heightened sensation-seeking tendencies. They could experiment with substances, engage in reckless activities, or seek new experiences. This can be dangerous sometimes if you are clueless about your child’s everyday life and routine. It is important to be an informed, hands-on parent. Know their friends, hang-out joints, money spending capability, interests, things that they spend money on and definition of fun that they have on the weekends while hanging-out with peers. While experimentation is common they need to be educated on the ill-effects of harmful addictive substances that can also become habit forming!

    Identity Formation

    Adolescence is a period all about forming their Identity. Teenagers are trying to figure out who they are and where do they fit in the world. They may struggle with their self-image and may become highly self-conscious about their appearance and social status or the lack of it. As a result, it is essential for parents to be supportive and non-judgmental and encourage them to identify their strengths and interests. Build their self-esteem and let them know that your love for them is unconditional and you are their security blanket, no matter what.

    Insights-Into-A-Teenagers-Mind-For-Parents-To-Know-inline-imageUnderstanding your teenager's mind is critical for parents to support them.

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    Peer Pressure

    Friends and peer relationships are the most important and significant in a teenager's life. They seek validation and acceptance from their peers, which can influence their behaviours, choices, and social dynamics. Since they are highly influenced by their peers, it is important that we as parents know these influencing factors are. They could have a need to be accepted and to belong to their social group and this can lead to negative behaviours sometimes. Dares, tasting drugs and alcohol, engaging in risky sexual behaviour are some examples. Talk frankly with them about the fears of peer influence, bullying, misbehaviour etc. and help them identify family values that they resonate with to make sensible friendships.

    Technology and Social Media

    Teens spend a significant amount of time on their smartphones, tablets, and laptops, which impacts their social and emotional development. Social media can contribute to feelings of insecurity, anxiety, depression, body image issues, a constant need for validation and comparison and so on. Parents should monitor their teenager's use of technology and social media and set limits on their usage by leading by example. Educate your teenagers about online safety and privacy, their lives do not need to be online.

    Academic Pressure

    Academic pressure is a major stressor for teenagers. They could be overwhelmed by schoolwork, extracurricular activities, expectations from parents and teachers, not knowing what future academic and career choices to make and choose or have genuine difficulty with subjects. Parents must encourage good study habits, help them set achievable goals, and teach them time management. Parents also know that academic success is not the only measure of your child's worth. Focus on their personal growth, development and build their values and integrity. Should the child need extra help, please get them the resources that they need.

    Communication

    Communication is the backbone of any relationship, and is non-negotiable between parents and teenagers. Teens may feel uncomfortable or embarrassed talking to their parents about topics, like sex, drugs, alcohol, early sexual activity but it is up to the parents to create a safe, non-judgmental, open environment for their child to talk openly and ask whatever it is that they want to know. Keep your answers age appropriate and brief. Listening to your teenager's concerns and offering guidance and support can help build a beautiful strong and a positive relationship that you will cherish for a lifetime.

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    In the end, understanding your teenager's mind is critical for parents to support them. By understanding these changes that our teens go through and providing love, support, care and guidance to them at every step, we can help them navigate these turbulent years with ease and grace.

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