The transition from childhood to adulthood is certainly not easy for the ones going through it, as well as for those who are parenting them. This article talks about the need to draw healthy boundaries with your teenage child, how to do so, and how boundaries help both the child and the parent to make the best of their relationship with each other.
The transition from childhood to adulthood is certainly not easy for the ones going through it, as well as for those who are parenting them. This article talks about the need to draw healthy boundaries with your teenage child, how to do so, and how boundaries help both the child and the parent to make the best of their relationship with each other.
Have you ever felt a distance between the way you connect with your child? In other words, do you ever feel that your child was closer to you when they were younglings, and with teenage setting in, they haven’t remained as close to you? If yes, then you are not alone. It is common for parents of teenagers to feel this way, and setting some boundaries may just help smoothen the parenting journey.
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Knowing that there are boundaries in place helps both the child and their parents to feel assured that they have defined social and emotional roles to play. Boundaries ensure that neither the child nor the parent over-step into each other’s personal territories, which in a way, helps both the child and the parents to trust each other more. With the presence of boundaries, children learn to become more responsible decision-makers, since no one else but they would be accountable for the decisions they make. At the same time, boundaries ensure that both the child and the parent are there for each other whenever needed, and thus, boundaries function a great deal to enhance the parent-child relationship.
As a family, you must discuss and reach a consensus about boundaries. Some areas of discussion could be the areas where boundaries apply, negotiability of boundaries, consequences of breaches, or changes in boundaries, etc. Here are a few tips that will help you understand how exactly you can go about setting boundaries.
Now, what are the areas where boundary-setting is essential? Let’s take a look.
Friendships And Romantic Relationships | Accept your children’s feelings, instead of trivialising or minimising them. Help them understand the meaning of terms like consent, dignity, diversity, and equality in relationships. Have a discussion about peer pressure and encourage your children to be assertive.
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Personal Space And Privacy | Establish a balance between knowing and trusting your child. Do not check their personal belongings like phones, diaries, or computers. Everyone has the right to their personal space, and this will also help them trust you more. However, do hold conversations with your teen about the need to ensure safety, both physically and digitally, and ways to do so.
Household Chores | As parents, we sometimes expect our grown-up children to help us with the household chores. This will also help them to feel more responsible about the place they live in. Here, you ask for them to extend their support, instead of instructing or demanding.
Career | Instead of viewing your children as an extension or a mini version of yourselves, perceive them as individuals with their own dreams and aspirations, and motivate them to achieve them. Do not impose your expectations on your children.
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It would be best to consider our teenagers as trapeze artists, swinging between childhood and adulthood, experiencing a paradox where there is rebellion towards adult control versus the need for direction, and a desire for closeness versus fear of intimacy. This constant push and pull can be well regulated with healthy boundaries, thus enabling our teenagers to become independent and intrinsically fulfilled adults.
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Nilisha Aggarwal is a Child and Adolescent Psychologist, registered with the Rehabilitation Council of India. She holds extensive, hands-on experience in administering psychological assessments and treating mental health issues among children and adolescents, and is a certified Career Analyst and Psychotherapist. She is Founder, Inside Out Mental Health Clinic.
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